To those special humans

                   
            It has been 4years now but still his memories have never faded out.He gave me good company,made me laugh and was there in happy times around me.I felt happy when he was around.We killed time,travelled a lot together passing on a lot of facts about the classes to each other.Still i remember the last meeting we had.He came to my room,talked for half hour that day.We talked about bikes and how he loved it.I never knew that i would miss him so much.There was a dream a couple of days back when he was there in it.I was so elated to see him back.I truly will give up anything to have him back live playing his character persona but it is against the laws of life,i know.But dreams are things created by god to keep us happy.He was there in it and i asked him how is it possible for him to come back alive.He shrugged his shoulders,gave that typical smile of his and said "i came back just like that".I did not ask any further but was tracking back the times we had together.It was fantastic.We were on a get together sort of a function and he was right there in the middle enjoying himself and spreading fun to all the ones around...People were so happy to see him back live.I never knew it was a dream,i really believed that it was all happening and i was in complete joy,overwhelmed by it.The dream slowly faded away and i bid him goodbye.I woke up the next morning in rude shock and wanted to have him back.God thanks for the dream but you should have never taken him away from us.RIP my friend.
                             
                           

Graceful exits

It is always mandatory to have retirements in any sector so as to bring in a fresh leash of life in the form of vibrant youth.Experience is something that any organization should have in order to hold its act together but then there are times when you need fresh legs.In our country experience is a term that is often misinterpreted or wrongly portrayed.Experience as of our contextual understanding is the age factor more than anything.But we have to understand clearly the very difference between age and experience.I did my post graduate education in kerela-the god's own country as they may fondly call it.
The very place is the epicentre of communism and voices of rights in India.There isn't any state that is so very attached to hold on to its human rights and employees so dear as like this wonderful state.But then we always see the state under performing or performing badly compared to its potential interms of national growth.Why is this so?.Well I have my own reasons for it.The state proudly says that it has the largest number of trade unions in the country which is a fair reason as to say why the state is very habitual to most of its labor force.The people who cross an age aren't chucked out of the system even if they underperform .The brothers of the labor union tend to go fight for their brethren when there is a sacking around the corner.This is a double edged sword.Though they cling on to the rights of theirs,they tend to forget that there need to be someone who bells the cat.
The people once they cross an age should be retired and if they underperform they can be retired too.My point is simple.Give people chances to perform even if they fail a couple of times.Back them up,but not at the expense of your downfall.There is only a very acute difference between foolishness and gut when it comes to backing up underperformers.I may be a bit harsh but being a young lad and someone who is itching to go on and make history,people of my age expect the oldies to retire if the job is burdening them
If they can't do it leave way.We can come and turn the tables.We are good at doing it too.We are a generation expecting opportunities.If we have a look at the way the government offices work on e really feels that atleast a quarter of them needs to be laid off.But they hang on and make a lot of money too.Why can't we take tough decisions.Of course they have done wonderful things to the workplace during their prime,but now the point is,they are more of excess baggage in a sinking boat.We need fresh guys to row the rudders.Bring in the youth and retire the oldies.The oldies as i really mean are the ones who aint doing any work and are useless.Those who work their asses off are always young according to me.The situation will only change when there are graceful exits rather than pinkslips.

SLUTWALKers

The latest news that flooded the dailies all over India,if not the world,is slutwalks by women.The objective of these walks is to reduce the sexcrimes against women.The very objective is catchy and has to be appreciated.People all over the world do care only about themselves and their loved ones rather than staging up a fight against social issues.Iam no different too but i always had it in me to do something good when I grow up.Only time can tell when and how I can be of some use to the society.Well now these slutwalks are nothing but a rally by young and beautiful women who take up the streets to exercise their opinions on dressing up fashionably and exposively.Of course I have to agree on their point that men have got no rights to define how they have to dress up,we really don't.

The women are beautiful creatures made by God,so pleasing to the eye and their mere presence brings an element of joy.Of course Iam talking generally here.But this whole concept of Slutwalk is taking a different dimension because of the clothing factor.Women want their freedom of dressing,of course they do.But I cant comprehend why do they want to expose their skin.Westernisation is taking a toll on the Indians thanks to the growing industrial sectors and invasion of foreign outlets here in this part of the world.Women can dress as fashionably and attractively as they need,nobody infact has a buzz about it.But then, the slutwalkers hold placards saying “u need not look at what iam wearing”,”rapes will go on even if iam properly dressed”.Of course anyone who knows a fair bit of English can really understand what they mean but that doesn’t make what they say is right.

There are two ways to look at things,one the rebel way and one the conservative way.The women taking up this stance are quite rebellious in nature and I can only hope they raise their children atleast in an Indian way.Dressing up themselves is anyone’s liberty but not at the expense of others' getting provoked.I don’t seriously understand the girls who come up and display their t-shirts with very perversive comments like,”I ve got a beautiful face on top,see that too”,”touch me if u dare” “don’t look at me”,”unbutton me if u can”.If the women believe that moral policing is bad and if they seriously believe that wearing such captions and going in front pervert men ,waiting like hawks for a fish,and say “come on I have got my own sense of dressing,don’t you look at me…”.Now that is the aspect that I dislike .

Men aren’t perfect.But it doesn’t make sense to me that exposive dress ups shouldn’t even arouse a man.Men wouldn’t be men if they aren’t doing it.Iam not being machomasculine but I just want to say that girls should understand science before they talk.Sex crimes have to be dealt with severely.I would consider a sex crime like a rape/molestation/eve teasing as a social injustice towards women and the offenders should be stonepelted to death.But even men like me who take a fundamentalist stance would like to conserve women welfare,but in the positive way.Going in halfbaked clothing and provoking men would only deepen this ruggedhole and so women should understand what they are doing too.It is a 2edged sword, this slutwalking.Not only is it targeted at men but also it fights for women's clothing freedom.My sincere request to all those beautiful women,fight for a cause not for publicity& exposure

the tour that was all fun n frolic...

In my last post i have mentioned about the lovely tour to munnar.I enjoyed it so much that i thought it would be justice served in a platter only if i can type something about it here in my very own world.the tour to munnar started very colorfully because of the fact that we were allowed to be in casuals for the 1st time in the otherwise wrecked college 1st year life.This in itself set the mood up and all of a sudden the talkatives,silent folks and the rest too slowly but surely stepped into the room of enjoyment.we had our lunch and we started the tour after a prayer.it was a ritual which is not my cup of tea but it has always been carried out whenever i have been on a tour.the bus buzzed up as we travelled around say a dozen kms.the gals started singing,the north indian friends,the hindi knowing mallu friends kickstarted the campaign by singing a few songs.we were(like usual)sitting in the last row of the bus and were simply warming up ourselves.the anthaksari mode turned on as everybody started singing some foottapping numbers in their own voices.All of a sudden SPBs and Shreya Ghosals were increasing in leaps and bounds as the fever spread epidemically.All of a sudden i was forcefully evacuated from my place and the leader of the trip took me alongwith him to the front and asked me to sing tamil songs.I went there all alone and i was say like threatened to sing and i had to.I was not allowed to be accompanied by my tamil speaking friends too.I felt very reluctant and shy but then i knew i should not disappoint the entirity there who were simply looking at me to start.So i started singing(or whatever u name it) a few gaana kinda songs.I was feeling happy with the kind of care and encouragement that were showered on me.it was a nice trip.the gals felt a bit less amused to speak with us,but ya we knew that they would be like that certainly for how we had been till then.We were introduced to a tent life for 3days.I just loved it as i knew it was something that caught me unawares and something that happens once in a lifetime.We had a wonderful team of neighbours to whom we spoke for the first time.The class started to loosen up in the first day itself with activities and games and the romantic climate set up a wonderful campfire mood ready to be occupied with fun.The guitarist of the class set the tone by his amazing skills and to set the party ablaze a few started singing a few peppy numbers.It was a nicetime but i loved my first campfire in coorg with my ug mates better because we were dancing to the compositions that were made by rajas and rahmans.nevertheless it was an effort that was really appreciable.The next morning sun welcomed us and a couple of naughty brat girls were beating up every guy who came a bit late for breakfast.I got my share too.Then we went onto play a few games,i even got my first time opportunity of leading a team.Nobody cared about the individual losses but everybody were very sportive and were complimenting each other well.we made our own boats and did a nice boating.This again was an one time opportunity for sure.I enjoyed it thoroughly.The campfire the second day was good again but numbers started reducing soon and so the think tank came up with an idea of asking pairs to comeup and dance/sing.I was paired with a girl with whom i was doing my horrible dancing too.The photograph taken after the dance was a classic.It's a favourite of mine.We did some trekking and some photoshoots too.The girls from Tamilnadu felt so reluctant to come and ask us for a joint photograph because of the treatment that they had meted out before from us.It wasnt a good experience for them speaking to us before that.Eventually they approached and we happily obliged too.We took photographs with most of the class and of course with the special ones too.Then we were returning back to the college.This time i was asked by a girl who was sitting before me, to sing a melody song.So we thought of lighting up the bus with some songs which was half asleep and tired.we knew that we guys who always roamed together dint do justice to the enjoyment of the class.So we four of guys agreed to sing and dance and we had company.A few girls and some real good friends came together and we started enjoying ourselves.People starting contributing a lot with a lot suggestions and songs that were to be sung.we had a real good time out there and then i was overwhelmed with ecstacy when a north indian friend of mine who dint understand a word of what i shouted as 'o podu,nalla podu' said he enjoyed the ooooos and the other rhythms that we sang.We made everybody happy and feel good.That was very satisfactory infact.the class began to gel up well after that.facebook and orkut got new acclaims that pgdm 19c is the best kinda msgs...We simply were the best set of friends around then and i enjoyed being part of such a good tour with such good friends...thanx all for some wondeful memories to trackback and cherish...

tamil machans

my pg life dint start as per expectations.the college was damn strict and rubbish at times that they treated us so badly and dint give us either freedom or respect.but i got acclimatised soon.its a common sight to see the birds of the same feathers flock together.it happened in my case.we the guys from tamilnadu,we were always roaming together.we had a similar frequency and of course the language was the 1st uniform thing that brought us together.we were all in different classes but we go together whenever we meet up.there was this lovely tour to munnar where 4of us started dancing and singing in the bus and i believe a good chunk of the class enjoyed it.people started tagging us 'tamil machans' and it stuck from there on.time fled by and we made friends with many guys from then on...the cross culture affiliation came up but still we never left the friendship that we had amongst us.godwilling we shall be together for many years to come too.

Controversy sells better...

I have always believed in the tagline that i have mentioned here "controversy sells better".its always nice to be in the midst of a controversy if u wanna get attention.iam quite opposite to this topic though.iam the typical southie u wud com across.very orthodox or very villager at heart though i have never ever grown up in a village.i liked the film"kattrathu tamil" very much.its a jeeva starrer and captured my imagination very well.i also liked the film "angaadi theru".these are two films which dint do well in the box office though.the former showed typical bpo culture,how exactly does a normal guy feels a culture shock when he moves out to a metro and some facts that disrupted the average money spinners.iam a tee-totaller.a fact thats very hard to believe if som1 looks at me for the 1st time.i never advocate or support smoking,specially smoking in public.i have been experiencing typical bachelor lifestyles for the past3+years...this was the time when my room was the smoke cabin for all my frends.i personally dint like it but they dint have any other spots as secure as my room to smoke.its very difficult to remain a non-smoker when ur in a gang where almost 95%smoke.luckily i managed it.this time i was in chennai working in a mnc.i was literally stunned to see some gals smoking in the corridors there.i hate smoking completely,women smoking, even badly.i cud get acclimatised to it although i always felt it was freedom taken ridiculously.iam no gandhi myself but these are incidents that really made me angry.here in our nation if som1 feels just as bad as me about women smoking,there will be gals who wud confront by saying,"y not us,y only u men".this is an attitide thats not gonna fetch anything good for anybody.i wud see a gal-boy affinity go beyond tolerance in my company.there was this couple who wud call themselves frends but involve in activities that was completely shocking.the guy was shorter than the gal and he always had his hand on her shoulders.it looked funny but still this was omnipresent that makes u feel bad...not just this,he was always hugging her in front of public,doing stuffs that was simply unsocial.stil they called it frenship..i hated them both.
in the midst of this broke out a national shame,the mangalore pub brawl and attacks by sri ram sena.in india women are never treated badly in public.but ther the pub goers were attacked irrespective of gender.i cud see gals getting attacked and beaten.a gal was surrounded by 3guys who slapped her for almost a minute.i have to admit that this attack was uncalled for and also it was a bit beyond the limit.but i liked the intent and the initiative.they were no holy angels who were attacked.they were in pubs at nights with guys consuming alcohol and was beaten by a so called moralforce.the media and the women organisations made a meal outta this issue.they never wanted to show the audiences that pub going was bad,night clubs were bad r anything like that.they simply highlighted the brawl in it.infact i was simply feeling happy on the incident.i was happy bcos atleast the mangalore gals wud have been afraid of the incident and they wud think twice b4 goin to the pubs and clubs from then on.
many mistake this as a rude or typical manly behaviour.i need not answer them on this i believe.also i have personally experienced certain incidents that were unwarranted for.this was during my job training.here in this place they were lecturing on evrything that was unnecessary.women shud be bold,i always believe in that.but to make them bold u cant do anything,its upto them to change themselves.one fine day my trainer came and arranged a gd.the topic was 'pre marital sex'.the very word shocked many including me except for a few high class guys who found it just another topic.the gals felt very uneasy and i was reluctant to even see any of their faces after the topic.now dont tell me that my mind was corrupted or anythin.i had the same degree of uncomfortability like them.the guys 3of them infact spoke on the topic and said that there was nothin wrong in it.already ther were signs of vulgarity creepin up.the trainer literally forced a gal to speak on it.she was very reluctant but finally she broke out.she said "even if guys say that its quite fine with them,they wud say someday that she was a questionable virgin".this really got praised from a bunch of guys like me.she was damn right,it happens and a guy may go into such activities.here the objective of the gd was to make people think broad.finally the gd ended in a way that was just shameful.this was an incident that was not needed at all,especially for a grown up's liberation.
the shock continues as fashion and trends change.the bad things which we were taught are now called liberalisation or freedom.let the villager in evry1s heart remain the same.else we cud just victims of poor preaching and marketing.

the best ever woman i have met...

This happened during this summer,i was onboard to coimbatore in a bus.the bus started at around 10pm,i was sitting in the middle tier and i had a woman nearby zigzag to my right,around my immediate right was a guy.he looked tough and rugged,had a cop cut hair and he was as dark as me.this woman was accompanied by another woman in her seat nearby.the woman,the heroine of this blog i mean was around 25years old and the girl nearby was nearly of the same age.the heroine was having a lovely little kid around say6months old.the bus was cruising smoothly and i was on a purpose of attending an interview for my mba.
it could have been around 3am i believe when i heard a noise breaking my sleep,i woke up in half sleep just to see the lights get lighted as if the destination came.i saw this woman,the heroine getting out of her seat and was about to slap the tough guy.i was stunned and adding to my perplexed look came the truckloads of slaps to the guy's cheeks from this bold woman.initially i was awestruck by her beauty but by now i was in no mood to look or admire at her charm.she was slapping the guy nonstop for around 2mins.then she screamed that this guy has made a move by trying to touch her coming from the front seat to the back.she used all the words that are unparlimantary and abused him.the look that this guy gave made me believe that he should have done it.
nobody in the bus were talking except this bold woman.she was ringing her husband in coimbatore and asked him to come to the setc busstand explaining the incident.he even talked with this guy over phone which she gave it to the culprit.the tough guy was now in no mood to talk anything as he was caught red handed.she slapped him whenever she wanted,the bus was in palani when the confrontation happened and she continued it till pollachi.
suddenly the MGR's came out into the scene as a few made comments like a hero,but not much with substance.the conducter came into the scene and he as soon as he recognised this tough guy was in motions to save him from further embarassment.he adviced him and took him along with him to his cabin,but then this woman was not like another looney tuney to sid idle,she went along with the conducter and grabbed this guy's shirt and slapped him again and she said she wanted the bus to go to coimbatore or a police station nearby.by then the men in the bus started quirking and said,"come on lets go and help the poor gal...".but before the guys could assemble,have a pact and go to the front cabin she came back livid after been promised that the conducter would take the bus to a police station.the conducter was supporting the convict as he was known to him.
suddenly the bus stopped near kinathukadavu which is around 20kms from pollachi.the conducter came in and said the guy wants to get down ther and asked the woman whether she would want to get down as well simply knowing that she wont get down with a baby at that part of time at around 5am...she was angry but had no other choice but to say no.i was deeply angry now,so was all on the conducter,but he did nothing unlawful and so nothing cud be done against him too.
but then this bold woman had already taught a lesson to that guy.the lesson he wouldnt forget till he dies.i have always liked women who are bold and gutsy.she was a rare mixture of boldness and charm.though i couldnt elaborate on all the deeds she did during the travel i would like to tel u shes the best ever woman i have ever met.